You’ve tried everything you know to do. Meds, therapists who don’t get it, PTSD programs, drinking, getting high, staying overly busy. Some of it has helped alleviate the pain; mostly, you just end up putting up with it all. You would give anything if someone would just come along and help you find a way through this darkness.
If you’re reading this, there is someone who has come along. No, it’s not me. It’s You.
You have not given up on yourself. You googled one more time seeking help. You showed up for your Self.
A wise man once told me: you can only ever be saved by opening to it.
You’re here reading this because you opened. That’s right. Something in you opened, ever so slightly, toward healing and it led you here. Your soul led you here.
Your ability to heal, to resurrect your Self, to find new ways of thinking and being are your responsibility. No one can do this for you. This is sacred work. It takes a commitment to your Self to do it. But you know more about commitment than most people do.
Questions, not answers, lead you to Life
I don’t have all the answers for you. But I do have questions. Life-giving and life-changing questions.
You don’t need anyone to tell you what to think; you do need to uncover what You think. And why you think it. You need to ask and respond to the questions that will lead you toward a better future — where you find the ability to accept what can’t be changed, change what you can, and grow into your wholeness as a human being.
Use these tools to help you find your way
I’ve put together six, free, short-and-powerful guidebooks that you can explore at your own pace. You’ll put yourself back in charge of your life and your post traumatic growth. Reading hard for you? They’re only three pages long and easy to digest.
And they ask questions that your soul needs to explore, so you can get unstuck and keep moving forward.
Start anywhere, or download them all (they’re pdfs) to your device and explore them at your own pace. Have questions? Connect with me on Facebook or by email.
Combat Veteran’s Guidebook Series
Who are you now?
Combat is a transformative experience. You are not the same person now as you were before. And that’s okay. You’re not meant to be. Explore questions to discover who you are now and who you want to become.
It’s all energy & beliefs
Everything is made of energy. Including you. And your thoughts. You understand when your physical energy fluctuates. Your body feels tired, you can’t concentrate, your skill level drops. But did you know that your emotional and mental energy also fluctuates?
It’s all tied together. Body-mind-spirit. You-your environment-people around you-the world. It all impacts how you feel. Explore questions to discover if what you believe still supports you or is keeping you stuck.
What to do about grief
War takes. You lose people you love because of it. You lose relationship. With others, with your Self. It all hurts like hell. But surprisingly, you may not consider yourself to be grieving. Or even really know what that means. Explore questions to discover how grief shows up for you and what you can do with it.
Anger, anger and more anger
Anger feels like your best friend. It keeps you comfortable. And safe. It protects you. People leave you alone when you’re angry. You don’t have to feel more vulnerable feelings when you’re angry. Combat veterans are supposed to be angry, right?
Yes. And no. At least, not forever. Explore questions to discover why you can’t seem to stop being angry and what to do about it.
Coping with those who don’t understand
People annoy you. And they’re going to keep annoying you until you figure out how to change your perspective about them. Civilians do things differently. Have different values. They’re not wrong, weak, or inferior to you. They’re civilians. The people you signed up to protect. That makes them, in a way, yours. So stop hating on them. And start shifting your mindset so you can live peaceably among them. Notice that I did not say you will become a civilian. Explore questions to discover ways to better be understood and what to do when people trigger you.
Making new choices
You belong to yourself now. Everyone has an opinion on how you should live, but no one has the authority to order you to do it. Not having an authority to tell you what to do can be daunting when you first get out. There are parts of your development of independence that you missed. Making choices about your life may feel confusing even though you’re an adult and you’ve lived more than most people ever will. But you can learn these things quickly, if you have a framework to guide your decisions. Explore questions to discover how to make better decisions and what might be holding you back.