After Combat, When is Love Worth Fighting For?

"But I love my wife. She's everything to me. I don't want to lose her." "He's not the man I married. I can't do this anymore." I hear these two expressions all the time from good people whose hearts are aching and weary. Brave people who are dealing with intense trauma and changes in each … Continue reading After Combat, When is Love Worth Fighting For?

How Much Does True Intimacy Matter?

This is an issue many of you, and especially me, are dealing with. I'm going to flat out tell you right now that I'm just beginning to truly understand the importance of true intimacy... I'm a novice at this, guys. Maybe we all are. God knows how many ancient walls guard my heart....or what it … Continue reading How Much Does True Intimacy Matter?

PTSD, TBI, Sex and Relationships

You came back different. Changed. You can't really describe  it, but you're not yourself. Not who you used to be. You're angry. Blow up at stupid shit. Lack other emotions. Feel numb. Tired. Disinterested in stuff that used to be interesting. Tense. Sleepless. Have nightmares that scare the hell out of you. Forget shit. Can't … Continue reading PTSD, TBI, Sex and Relationships

Families After War: Who Are You Supposed to Be Now?

For families after war, homecomings are joyous events. You are reunited with someone you love dearly. But what is not talked about as much is the mixed feelings and emotions families and veterans have over homecoming. As happy as it is, it can also be a time of trepidation, uncertainty and difficulty. Sadness, grief and … Continue reading Families After War: Who Are You Supposed to Be Now?

Spirit Wounds

War hurts the human spirit. That's why you can be physically whole and unharmed and still feel pain over your experience.  Or you may simply feel that something just isn't right. You can't quite pinpoint it. And you may tell yourself that you've come away (gratefully) unscathed. But you haven't. War - no matter how … Continue reading Spirit Wounds