What Veterans Can Do With Guilt, Shame After War

You're not supposed to talk about it. It's the underside of war that stays hidden deep inside. The unspeakable part of duty. The things you had to do to survive, the things you saw others do, the transgressions against humanity. No one wants to talk about guilt or shame. (Also called "moral injury".) But the … Continue reading What Veterans Can Do With Guilt, Shame After War

Why Veterans Need to be Allowed to Grieve

The cost of war to the human spirit can be summed up with one word: loss. The loss of sanctity of life, boundaries, safety, control. The loss of relationship - with ourselves, others, loved ones, our jobs, who we used to be, the future we planned. Loss holds the wounds of war in its hand. … Continue reading Why Veterans Need to be Allowed to Grieve

Veterans, Sound Familiar? “Too Tired? What? Come on, You’re Fine!”

Whether or not you were physically wounded in battle, you are wounded. Deeply. And your wounds are real. It may take some time for you to become aware of it. In fact, war wounds are often buried deep inside. That’s where that inner sense of being shattered comes from. That’s why the fear exists that … Continue reading Veterans, Sound Familiar? “Too Tired? What? Come on, You’re Fine!”

Spirit Wounds

War hurts the human spirit. That's why you can be physically whole and unharmed and still feel pain over your experience.  Or you may simply feel that something just isn't right. You can't quite pinpoint it. And you may tell yourself that you've come away (gratefully) unscathed. But you haven't. War - no matter how … Continue reading Spirit Wounds